LOVE DOESN'T MATTER

So today is going to be a little different. I don't have advice, I mean I could but I like this topic better. In an age like today, sexuality is important. But it shouldn't be. And it pisses me off.
Should it matter if a boy likes a boy or a girl likes a girl. It shouldn't. They aren't any different from us. Actually they are pretty much us. I never understood why people make a big deal, I don't understand how someone can hate a person because of who they love.
I have two examples of this. One, Lucas Cruikshank has been out of the closet for three years, but didn't think it was necessary to tell the public. He had thousands and thousands of people like his work, and just earlier this week, Lucas admitted to liking boys. I was reading through people's comment on his video and there was a lot of hate. How can someone who used to like the guy change their opinion just because of who he likes? I mean do we hate people because they like the opposite sex. 
I understand that, for society, being "straight" is the norm. But I believe it's a time for a change. Because example number two, one of my biggest idols is Adam Lambert, I supported him since the beginning of his adventure on American Idol.
 Lambert is an example of why judging is not fair. He had everything it took to win Idol, but because he was flamboyant about his sexuality, he came in second place. Only reason I am mentioning him is because everyone is so judgmental. Why does society care so much about the "gays" and not about the "straights." Society is so messed up because some of the best people who could make it big, don't get the chance because of who they love. Love doesn't matter. It shouldn't determine how people portray them. Everyone is human so get over it. Stop making homosexuality a taboo thing.

15 RANDOM THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT SEX

So in this post today I am gonna be like your mother. I have some statements about sex, which is kind of all based on self-opinions. I hope from this they will help mold your views on sex

1.  Age does matter.
2.  The best protective sex is to wait.
3.  The second best is to be on the pill and use condoms.
4.  Make sure having sex is worth it. I don't want you to regret it.
5. Saying that, make sure the person is the one you want to lose it to.
6. The same concepts apply with every person.
7. Be cautious about your body and health. 
8. Guys always think about sex.
9. But that doesn't mean they're faking their relationship for it.
10. Studies show that teenage boys care more about the relationship than the sex.
11. Think about what having sex can do to you and the other person.
12. Societal approval should determine if you are ready. If the thought that Society will disapprove your actions and it bothers you then you aren't ready.
13. Sex is like buying a car. You have to test each one out(as in dating) and figure out with one works best.
14. Sex is also a part of you. You really shouldn't give it away to anyone.
15. Sex can be addicting, so also make sure you are at the right age with the right person.

Again these are my views on sex and what I know. Also random fact did you know the sperm is really good for your face, it can actually reduce winkles. I hope you understand that I am not shoving my beliefs down your throat. Have a wonderful day and I hope to talk to you tomorrow.

THE FIRST KISS

So you scored a date, I'm assuming, right? well that will also mean you have to get through the date, which is challenging. But what happened when you drop the girl off at the front door? It's the first kiss!
The first kiss, no matter what, will always be awkward. Get over it! There is nothing you can do to fix that. But here are some tips to make the night more memorable . 
First. Make sure you are going to go out with her again. You don't want to lead the girl on, it is one of the worse thing a guy can do.
two. Find the right time, like when you are both done talking and you are about to leave. Her hair will glow in the moonlight and the smile will light up the dark sky. Find that moment.
third. Lean in, and just give a peck. It will be a little clean, because no girl really wants to have a slobbery wet first kiss. It will probably make us not like you, and you will likely not see a second date.
Finally. you just scored a still kinda awkward first kiss. But it'll be a cliche, cute first kiss, that really is pretty awesome. I hope this worked and I will write to you guys tomorrow. :)<3

FIGHT NIGHT

Here is something that in a relationship, no one can ever avoid. Fights. They will always happen. But there are a few things that each person can do that can either eliminate the amount of fights or that can prevent each other from hurting at the end of a fight.

So number one, if you can realize that something you may say will create a reaction don't say it, unless it is important and will bring you guys even closer together. This is important because your words can very indeed start heated arguments. By recognizing that what you say can start an argument you will be able to start decreasing the amounts of arguments.

Number two. Walk away from fights. If you and your other half is starting to get into a heated argument just walk away. This is the hardest thing to do. but by doing this, you can either earn great respect and look very mature. I suggest that you just say this is stupid and walk out or apologize even if you aren't wrong.

Number three. this tip is more for the guys. Sometimes in arguments you can say something really mean and it will cause girls to breakdown crying, not always, but sometimes. I suggest for a guy, to also just stop fighting. Apologize because it can make everything worse in the end.
I only give this advice cause I'm a sucker for flowers. If the two of you get into a fight and it is a major fight that ends up harming one another, well then, I think it is the guys duty to just go and buy something to show that you are sorry. Actually do something to show it, and girls can do that same. It shouldn't always be a guys fault kind of thing. Lets just admit know that we aren't so angelic as everyone thinks we are. We start fights and we should take responsibility for that too!

I hope this advice helped eliminate the amount of fights you and your other half have. If you want more opinions just contact me at its.a.love.thing13@gmail.com and I will promise to answer you back. Have a wonderful day and don't forget to tell someone you love them today <3

25 THINGS GUYS SHOULD KNOW ABOUT GIRLS

1. We are sensitive
2. We twist your words around
3. We will make you feel guilty
4. We want to be showered in compliments
5. We PMS and it can be ugly
6. We want you to buy us things
7. We can be selfish
8. We assume that you are all d****bags
9. We hate when guys make perverted jokes
10. We will tell our best friends everything that will happen
11. We like scary movies so we can cuddle
12. If we start venting its because we trust you
13. We love it when guys grab and pull us in by our waists
14. We will remember sentimental things that guys will say
15. We will also never let guys down if they say something offensive
16. We like to have Control
17. We love confidence in guys
18. We can be very self-conscious
19. We like to know what you are thinking
20. We will figure out every lie you tell
21. If we say no then stop asking
22. Every girl is complicated, some are better at hiding it than others
23. Don't check out another women in front of us, we will get jealous
24. We like to be asked out on dates even if we are dating
25.  We love nicknames

PHILLIP DEFRANCO IS ENGAGED?!?!?!

LONG DISTANT CHANGES

08/22/2013

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Change is definitely something that everyone has to go through. And it is not easy to deal with. So heres the thing, lets talk about me again.
My boyfriend left for college today and I am still in high school. It is challenging. It has been challenging to adapt to this change, As the days go on I realize that this change may be the greatest thing to ever happen to me.
Change has to happen. But if change happens in a relationship just work at it. It could bring you guys even closer to each other, I have learned from other people that if the change is a long term relationship it can actually bring the couple closer.
See here is the deal, when two people are far away from each other and you know you won't always see them, it can be very hard. But I have been told that you can get closer on a more emotional level because You will end up talking more about each others days. With today's technology you are able to connect much more with a person, with texting and video chatting.
So if there is a change in your relationship the two of you can make it work. If the two of you truly love each other then just work on it. Actually try and meet each other half way.  If you both work at it then the change can be very easy to over come.

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BEST MARRIAGE PROPOSAL EVER <3

08/19/2013

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So I am a huge youtube advocate, actually I make videos based on the blogs I post here. Lately I have been obsessed with SourceFed and before that I had known about this guy, Phillip Defranco. I knew as much as he was one out of like two hosts on Sourcefed who wasn't married but he had been dating this girl, Lindsey for over six years and I hoped one day he would ask her to marry him. AND HE DID!!
I love Defranco. He had balls to do this. First off he's like famous so he knew so many people would be seeing this, and it takes guts to ask a girl to marry them,  Defranco was unique, and on the last question he made a girl ask Lindsey if they would ever get married which puts both in an awkward situation and after he's done acting embarrassed he pulls out a ring and proposes to her. The best part about this video is that he made her parents come too, which you could see it meant alot to her, and I give him credit for pulling this off(: Although for being together for such a long time, I think he knew what she would say. I am a lover for this proposals but I wasn't big on marriage. I really hope that these two are happy and stay happy together forever. The end

DATE-NIGHT MAKE-UP TUTORIAL PART 2

DATE-NIGHT MAKE-UP TUTORIALS PART 1

LONG DISTANT CHANGES

Change is definitely something that everyone has to go through. And it is not easy to deal with. So heres the thing, lets talk about me again.
My boyfriend left for college today and I am still in high school. It is challenging. It has been challenging to adapt to this change, As the days go on I realize that this change may be the greatest thing to ever happen to me. 
Change has to happen. But if change happens in a relationship just work at it. It could bring you guys even closer to each other, I have learned from other people that if the change is a long term relationship it can actually bring the couple closer.
See here is the deal, when two people are far away from each other and you know you won't always see them, it can be very hard. But I have been told that you can get closer on a more emotional level because You will end up talking more about each others days. With today's technology you are able to connect much more with a person, with texting and video chatting. 
So if there is a change in your relationship the two of you can make it work. If the two of you truly love each other then just work on it. Actually try and meet each other half way.  If you both work at it then the change can be very easy to over come.

LETS GO TO A CONCERT

Concerts are always fun! it is a way to bring two people with the same taste of music together. If you live close to the venue its even better. I suggest to find a band that you both like and then buy tickets for like standing admission or lawn seats. Most concert tickets go for about $30.  
I really like this date because I am a fanatic about music and well...concerts. This is a perfect date for when you and your other half have been dating for a while because its like you can be with each other but don't have to really be talking or kissing. Its a fun way to get out of your hanging out kinda dates.
You guys could go get something small to eat before the concert starts, and then during the concert you both can concentrate on each other and the amazing music and how amazing this experience is.  This will be a date that you and your other half will never forget :)

THE DO'S AND DON'TS

Are you going out tonight? Is it a party or a huge dinner? Well I hope these tips help create the best night of your life.
so here is a list of Do's.
-Do introduce your person to everyone, but make sure they get to talk to one another.
-Do make sure you spend time with everyone.
-Do flaunt your significant other off. Let them know you are proud to have them in your lives.
-Do be confident in public with your significant other.
THE DON'TS
-Don't ignore your significant other for everyone else.
-Don't be overly friendly with the opposite sex, it could give off the wrong impression.
-Don't be distracted by everything/your cell phone, Make sure you make your way around to everyone.
-Don't ignore one another....Invite them to each conversation.
And that will make the date more effective and it'll make both of you feel more appreciative and proud of one another. You should feel like they were able to balance their attention on other people and on you. Hope this helped. :)

DATE NIGHT STYLE

So this style is simple to pull off. First my top is really just a thin hoodie-like-top. It was bought at Love Culture for a relatively cheap price. Now the pants are from Kohls, and this outfit is perfect for any colored pants, like blue or orange and even pink. if you go to any store you can usually find colored jeans on clearance. Now I love my converse, and they work great for everything, but if you don't own a pair a simple pair of flip flops or black flatts can work too. My necklace is from the Philippines, but any bulky big necklace can work. My hair is pinned back with a clip and my make-up is just natural. Any hair style works great for this outfit. Now for date night. I would wear this for the first dates, like if your going bowling or to dinner or movies. It works great because its comfortable and you look modest, not really showing off anything. It'll make the guy pay attention to you and what you say. So I hope you like my outfit tonight and remember never kiss a guy on the first date ;)  <3

DATE NIGHT VIA RAINY DAYS

Rainy days can be such a bummer, and if you live in a place like me, it's almost impossible to find a perfect day. So here is a date to go on when it won't stop raining.
Panera Bread is always a wonderful thing to eat on rainy days. it is relatively cheap had usually makes the best soups. Can I suggest either the French Onion or the grilled cheese with tomato soup. it's deliciouso! 
After dinner you and your other half can go to the movies and see the newest chick flick or action movie. But if you want to save money you can either rent the newest DVDs at a red box or go buy a movie for $5 at Walmart. You can make your own movie night at one of your houses. Its cheap and you can snuggle up under the blankets with your other half. Its a classic rainy night kinda date :) <3

JUST FALL IN LOVE

So you know how people can give advice but then never follow advice? Well...Guess what??? Today I feel like making your lives much better by telling you not to fall into my mistakes.
So I have been dating a boy for a year, Awe<3 and only being seventeen I had been in a relationship where when it ended the guy decided to just treat my like crap and say all these horrible things about me. it hurt me so much that I just grew distant from everyone else. About eight months of being a social outcast I met a boy from a different school and then we fell in love....But there were a few problems, He was a senior, and I have anxiety problems, which meant a lot of things scared me. So I tried convincing him I didn't want to be in a relationship and I continued to push him away. A couple weeks later he told me to give him a chance and I just thought I will keep my guard up and hope that it'll only be for a couple months. But it was a mistake.
One year later I am crying in my bedroom because the greatest thing to ever happen in my life is going to college. In a year i have barely managed to ever explain any of my troubles with him. I keep hiding away, and that's a mistake. If you really truly like someone please you should maybe actually try to trust them. I had lost trust on guys because they used it against me to hurt me, but I know my boyfriend better than anything, and yet it is so hard.
I regret not letting him help me. We came to the boiling part where he told me he was fed up with me because I would transfer my sadness into anger and I would lash out. I regret this because I know how much harder it'll be for him to help me. 
So here is my advice...If you are going to fall in love, fall in love. But you don't have to rush it.  Go on dates and see if the person is right for you. You should be able to trust the person and I trust mine, but I let fear control my life. 
I want you to be safe and to not feel afraid that the other person will ruin your life and hurt you. You shouldn't have to. I want you to be happy. So if you want to be in a relationship then put yourself out there and don't be afraid to fall in love, because I held back and now I am risking everything. Don't be a me.

FIRST DATE?!

So is this your first date? And do you not wanna mess this up? Well here are some tips for you.
Gentlemen, first off be a gentlemen, Be nice, compliment her(but again don't kill it) Oh and girls find it classy when you open the doors for her and other people.
Second off, If it's your first date pay for both of you, even if she offers. And pay for the next couple dates, then you can start being lighter on the cash.
So if you go out to dinner for a first date, don't be messy, be classy, and if it's the movies don't ruin the movie, and be quiet for the entire film. Seriously it's not that hard. 

Now for women, it can go the same for you. Be classy and not rude. If you absolutely hate being with the person just act like you are having a good time. If you are out to dinner then offer to pay, and if you are at the movies, don't annoy everyone  and be quiet. 
At the end of the night you can find a nice compliment about how awful the date was like say, I had an interesting time with you, but don't crush his night. Or if you absolutely have to then please be gentle over it.
And for the tip of the date: Do not use your cell phones....Pay attention to one another!!

ASK ME OUT

Do you ever get nervous asking a girl out? Well here are some tips that may or may not help you.
first...understand that I have never been asked out on a date ever in my life.
But this is what I imagined it to be.
Grow a pair of balls, then go find the girl you like and be like uh...your pretty. wanna go grab dinner tonight.
I actually think it's good to be nervous, it shows that this is a big deal to ask her out.  So heres the other thing, Just please stop being all pessimistic about it.
If a girl likes you she will say yes. if a girl is single she might give you a chance. And what if she says no? then you go to a bar and drink and hook up and make a mistake you will regret, unless your around my age, then just go play with your cat.
It's not the end of the world. I promise you that, so just go and take a chance, the worse she can do is say no.
And seriously compliment her, but don't kill it. And if you score a date, well Check out my next blog because I will explain what to do on a date.
I love you 
and good luck
<3

THE SEVEN DEADLY SIGNS OF LIKING SOMEONE

♥ You always find excuses to talk to that person


♥ That person is often on your mind



♥ You interpret things as a meant to be (like seeing them in weird places I.e at the grocery store, or a mall.)


♥ You find yourself trying to impress that 
person ( for girls, it's wearing make-up and dressing up. Or for boys, it's cleaning up, I.e shaving their beard and trying to dress classy)


♥ You imagine a future with that person


♥ You get butterflies every time you see that person


♥ You start to over analyze every single one of your conversations and that person's action to justify it as that person as liking you

ALL ABOUT ME

So I created this blog because I am in a relationship and I thought that this would be a fun way to give advice to people who are trying to be in a relationship and who are in a relationship. I will help you plan perfect dates and perfect outfits and perfect make-up.

So heres the part where I talk about who I am.
♥ First my name is Rachel Behling and I am seventeen years going on eighteen.
♥ I am not the typical girly girl but I like dressing like one for dates.
♥ I live in a huge town that has everything...i also only have one friend
♥ I am also in a relationship with that boy in the picture....We've been together for over a year.
♥ I also own a lot of make-up
♥ I wanna become a writer one day
♥ and most importantly I love you <3